This works best if both parents are Christians. A godly man marries a godly woman to honor God in their home.
Genesis 2 says that God told Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply. Godly parents should desire to have children. Godly parents – especially a godly father means more than having a lot of children. It includes shaping those children to have fruitful lives.
Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
A husband that loves his wife will have a wife that respects him. A nagging wife disrespects her husband. Children will follow her example and in like manner disrespect their dad. The book of Proverbs equates this to having bones that are rotting.
The dad is ultimately responsible for cultivating the children with the help of his wife. Dads should not be mean, overbearing, hateful, or intimidating with their children. The father’s duty is to cultivate all aspects of his child to maturity in the Lord.
Dads – read to your children. Read especially the Bible with your children. Pray with them. Leading a child in spiritual things is more of the dad’s responsibility than it is the mom’s. The dad is able to lead as he is led by the Holy Spirit. The dad should not neglect the spiritual growth of his children and pass off the responsibility of cultivating his child to the pastor, Sunday School teacher or VBS teacher.
Dads – Find a healthy church community for your family. Nothing will turn your child away from church faster than seeing your neglect and distaste for it. Find a church community where you can be plugged in and involved and excited about your pursuit of Christ and willingness to serve. Children will follow. Godly friends are a wonderful influence on your children. Integrate your family into the community of your church. Use things in everyday life to use as teachable moments for your children.
Discipline – Proverbs 13:24, Proverbs 23:13-14, Proverbs 29:17 Truth…Proverbs 23:13 – Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
Do everything possible to establish a relationship with your children. Grow it. Cultivate it. Show your children how to repent of sin. Let them see you pray. Let them see you read the Bible. In doing this, you are teaching them and showing them that you value your relationship with God and your sanctification process.
Outside your personal salvation and marriage – There will be no greater joy in your life then when your child is called to salvation by Jesus.