Wouldn’t it be great if we could become everything that our wives think we are? I do not mean take the place of God in their life. I have no desire for us to be an idol for them. I will try to use my thought process to explain. What I do mean is that I would like to be my wife’s super hero. My wife is not a big fan of super heroes. She is not into comic books, movies, cartoons etc. However, I would like to be her version of what a super hero is. Go with me here. I believe I figured this out to a point.
My wife likes to be listened to without me interrupting her. She likes it when I do the dishes or the laundry without being asked. I try to help her as much as I can because I am currently a stay at home dad. I try to do the majority of work around the house while my son is asleep. Being my wife’s super hero is more than doing dishes and folding clothes. It has a lot to do with intangible items.
My wife loves for me to spend time with her. She has a deep need to be loved. I hope that I show her as much as I tell her. She needs to feel safe. This usually means she needs to feel protected and secure. I believe that protecting her also includes my care and concern for her overall well-being. I believe this falls in line with loving my wife as Christ loves the church. Honoring her includes that I care for her physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
I believe that a wife’s definition of super hero has nothing to do with talents, skills or super powers. A wife wants a husband that loves her and cherishes her. She wants her husband to treasure her only after he treasures Christ first. A wife wants her husband to be a good dad. I try to only use the word father in relation to God as He is our Heavenly Father. Any man can be a father. It takes a real man to be a dad.
Husbands. Love your wives like Christ loves the church. Sacrifice for her. Cherish her. Treasure her. Protect her and keep her safe and secure. Be a good lover but more importantly be her best friend.
How have you shown your wife that you love her today?